Things I've learned in 35 years on Earth...

If you’ve been following along at my Facebook page, you’ll have noticed me posting little tidbits of wisdom that I’ve acquired, leading up to my birthday. Today’s #36 for me, and I have never felt so thankful, happy, and blessed to be alive.


Things I’ve learned in 35 years on earth…

Here are all the little wisdom nuggets I’ve shared, collected all in one place, plus a few bonus thoughts just for this post. What would you add to the list?

  1. When you go on vacation, always clean your apartment and put fresh sheets on the bed. You’ll appreciate it so much when you get home!

  2. Learn how to save money when you’re young. It’s a skill you’ll be thankful for later on in life.

  3. Don’t settle. If it’s not a “HELL YES!!” - it’s a no.

  4. No one is perfect. Not even me.

  5. Learn how to trust your instincts, and always follow them. They won’t steer you wrong.

  6. Find the balance between boundaries and forgiveness.

  7. Self-care is of the highest importance. You can’t take care of anyone else if you don’t take care of you.

  8. If you’re not happy with yourself, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

  9. Always choose kindness.

  10. Make time to sit in silence.

  11. There is always something to be grateful for…

  12. A “failure” is only failure if you’ve failed to learn something from it…

  13. Learning is a life-long process.

  14. Self-growth is messy but beautiful. It’s okay not to be the same person you were yesterday, and it’s okay if people don’t accept the new version of you.

  15. People are brought into your life for specific reasons - reasons you may not even realize until months or years later.

  16. Music transcends boundaries. When you can’t find the words, find the song.

  17. Believe in magic and always maintain your sense of wonder.

  18. Approach everyone you meet with an open mind and an open heart.

  19. Give more than what you take.

  20. Diversify. Make friends with people of different ages, races, sexual orientations, genders, etc.

  21. Always love. Give as much love as you can. There will never be too much love in the world.

  22. Embrace a growth mindset. Just because you did something wrong in the past, doesn’t mean you have to stand by it in the present.

  23. Trust that the universe is giving you exactly what you need, at any given time - whether it’s a gift or a lesson.

  24. The best things in life cannot be bought. Happiness and love come from within, and they are best cultivated through gratitude.

What's Your Why?

As we get closer to book launch day, I want to dive in a little bit deeper to some of the content you’ll find in The Happy Break-up. Every page in the book was well thought-out in order to help you achieve optimal levels of confidence post-breakup.

What's your why? Find your motivation to increase your self confidence and self esteem after a break-up. 

 

The book starts out by asking you this exact question – what’s your why?

You may have heard this phrase before – the reason for it is to find your purpose, your drive, your motivation, your destiny. 

When you pick up The Happy Break-up, you’re making a decision to move beyond the initial sadness and heartache of a break-up, and get back to the fundamentals of YOU.

Countless studies have shown that the absolute best motivation is an internal motivation. Finding that drive to encourage yourself, when no one else will, is essential to changing your thought patterns and behaviour.

On this page of the book, I want you to reflect on why you’re doing this – why now? What is making you feel ready to move on?

Having a WHY is the key to figuring out and enduring the HOW.

Writing it down is key. You want to do this activity on a day that you’re feeling focused, energized, and wholeheartedly believe that you are ready to move on from this break-up.

Why? Because this is the page that you’re going to come back to constantly – to remind yourself of why you’re doing all this heavy emotional baggage lifting. Though there may still be sad days ahead, or days where you feel defeated, having a written reminder of why you started this process in the first place can help turn a bad day into a good one, or just be a gentle nudge to make tomorrow a little bit better.  

If you feel comfortable, I’d love to hear what your “why” is – please share below in the comments!

Self-Care for Self-Preservation

Self-Care has been an important element of my life, even before I had ever heard the phrase "self-care." For me, self-care means retreating inward, and finding that balance between the pressure and requirements of every day life, and the mental rejuvenation needed to keep it going. 

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In January of 2016, I read a book that has changed my life. The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod invites readers to add 6 simple tasks into their morning ritual, that will make them more productive, thoughtful and happier. And it works! 

My absolute favourite parts of the Miracle Morning are meditation, positive affirmations, and journalling. If I can't get through the entire six steps for whatever reason, I always make sure that those three are done first and foremost. Today, I hit my 500 day streak in each of those categories, and it makes me feel amazing! Meditation helps me be still and aware. Positive Affirmations help me build confidence. And Journalling helps me reflect on who I was, who I am, and who I want to become. I highly encourage all who are interested to pick up on these daily habits, try it out for the entire month of February, and then come back and let me know how you've changed!

I'd love to hear some of your self-care rituals, your favourite positive affirmations or mantras, or anything else you'd like to share on the topic in the comments below.

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Love,
Cate

P.S. for anyone who is wondering how I know that I hit my 500 day streak today, I use this awesome app called Coach.Me. It lets you choose the habits you want to form, and then check into them every day that you've completed the task. Highly recommend! 

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