Things I've learned in 35 years on Earth...

If you’ve been following along at my Facebook page, you’ll have noticed me posting little tidbits of wisdom that I’ve acquired, leading up to my birthday. Today’s #36 for me, and I have never felt so thankful, happy, and blessed to be alive.


Things I’ve learned in 35 years on earth…

Here are all the little wisdom nuggets I’ve shared, collected all in one place, plus a few bonus thoughts just for this post. What would you add to the list?

  1. When you go on vacation, always clean your apartment and put fresh sheets on the bed. You’ll appreciate it so much when you get home!

  2. Learn how to save money when you’re young. It’s a skill you’ll be thankful for later on in life.

  3. Don’t settle. If it’s not a “HELL YES!!” - it’s a no.

  4. No one is perfect. Not even me.

  5. Learn how to trust your instincts, and always follow them. They won’t steer you wrong.

  6. Find the balance between boundaries and forgiveness.

  7. Self-care is of the highest importance. You can’t take care of anyone else if you don’t take care of you.

  8. If you’re not happy with yourself, you won’t be happy in a relationship.

  9. Always choose kindness.

  10. Make time to sit in silence.

  11. There is always something to be grateful for…

  12. A “failure” is only failure if you’ve failed to learn something from it…

  13. Learning is a life-long process.

  14. Self-growth is messy but beautiful. It’s okay not to be the same person you were yesterday, and it’s okay if people don’t accept the new version of you.

  15. People are brought into your life for specific reasons - reasons you may not even realize until months or years later.

  16. Music transcends boundaries. When you can’t find the words, find the song.

  17. Believe in magic and always maintain your sense of wonder.

  18. Approach everyone you meet with an open mind and an open heart.

  19. Give more than what you take.

  20. Diversify. Make friends with people of different ages, races, sexual orientations, genders, etc.

  21. Always love. Give as much love as you can. There will never be too much love in the world.

  22. Embrace a growth mindset. Just because you did something wrong in the past, doesn’t mean you have to stand by it in the present.

  23. Trust that the universe is giving you exactly what you need, at any given time - whether it’s a gift or a lesson.

  24. The best things in life cannot be bought. Happiness and love come from within, and they are best cultivated through gratitude.

Peak time of year for break-ups

Ever since I dove headfirst into undertaking my masters program, while at the same time publishing a book, I’ve become a big researcher. So, as I began to think about The Happy Break-Up being published, I thought about what other topics are out there, about break-ups.

Guys. There is SO much out there.

Like, did you know that today, April 1, is one of the peak days for break-ups? Read on to find out why.

According to Facebook, the absolute most common day for a break-up is December 11.

Why December 11?

Well, there’s a few theories out there. It’s two weeks until Christmas – perhaps there’s a fear of introducing your partner to the family? Maybe you find yourself shopping for holiday gifts, and you realize that you don’t want to spend the holidays with this person at all. Holidays bring out a lot of stress in people – sometimes the relationship just can’t handle the stress, and it becomes a casualty of the moment.

Oddly (thankfully?) Christmas Day – December 25, is statistically the least likely day for couples to break up. So there’s something.

Other popular days and times for breakups are:

Valentine’s Day – February 14

Breaking up on the “most romantic” day of the year? Well, again, there is the stress of the holiday. Or sometimes, it’s a planned break. A partner decides that they want to get revenge, so they break up on a socially significant day.

Spring Break

So – I’ve been pretty active on twitter recently, and I befriended a few younger Tweeters. Recently, they showed me some posts that exposed exactly what happens in Miami on Spring Break. I must say, I’m pretty glad I had never seen that before now. My eyes are scarred. But it totally makes sense that couples might break up before Spring Break, especially if they’re planning a wild trip.

April Fool’s Day – April 1

My thoughts on this? April Fool’s is a day for pranks. Perhaps there’s a few people out there who decide to “prank” their partner, only it’s not so much a prank. Splitsville just in time for some good weather!

Summer

Finally, there’s a slight peak for breakups spread out throughout the summer months. Ahh summer – happy, free-loving spirits, wearing as minimal clothing as possible to cope with the summer heat. Wandering eyes might wonder what their missing, might be meeting new people at the beach or at a summer party, and might just be ready to cut themselves loose from the relationship ties. It makes sense.

What do you think about these statistics? Have you ever broken up with someone, or been broken up with on one of these days?

Leave me a comment and let me know!