What's Your Why?

As we get closer to book launch day, I want to dive in a little bit deeper to some of the content you’ll find in The Happy Break-up. Every page in the book was well thought-out in order to help you achieve optimal levels of confidence post-breakup.

What's your why? Find your motivation to increase your self confidence and self esteem after a break-up. 

 

The book starts out by asking you this exact question – what’s your why?

You may have heard this phrase before – the reason for it is to find your purpose, your drive, your motivation, your destiny. 

When you pick up The Happy Break-up, you’re making a decision to move beyond the initial sadness and heartache of a break-up, and get back to the fundamentals of YOU.

Countless studies have shown that the absolute best motivation is an internal motivation. Finding that drive to encourage yourself, when no one else will, is essential to changing your thought patterns and behaviour.

On this page of the book, I want you to reflect on why you’re doing this – why now? What is making you feel ready to move on?

Having a WHY is the key to figuring out and enduring the HOW.

Writing it down is key. You want to do this activity on a day that you’re feeling focused, energized, and wholeheartedly believe that you are ready to move on from this break-up.

Why? Because this is the page that you’re going to come back to constantly – to remind yourself of why you’re doing all this heavy emotional baggage lifting. Though there may still be sad days ahead, or days where you feel defeated, having a written reminder of why you started this process in the first place can help turn a bad day into a good one, or just be a gentle nudge to make tomorrow a little bit better.  

If you feel comfortable, I’d love to hear what your “why” is – please share below in the comments!

Peak time of year for break-ups

Ever since I dove headfirst into undertaking my masters program, while at the same time publishing a book, I’ve become a big researcher. So, as I began to think about The Happy Break-Up being published, I thought about what other topics are out there, about break-ups.

Guys. There is SO much out there.

Like, did you know that today, April 1, is one of the peak days for break-ups? Read on to find out why.

According to Facebook, the absolute most common day for a break-up is December 11.

Why December 11?

Well, there’s a few theories out there. It’s two weeks until Christmas – perhaps there’s a fear of introducing your partner to the family? Maybe you find yourself shopping for holiday gifts, and you realize that you don’t want to spend the holidays with this person at all. Holidays bring out a lot of stress in people – sometimes the relationship just can’t handle the stress, and it becomes a casualty of the moment.

Oddly (thankfully?) Christmas Day – December 25, is statistically the least likely day for couples to break up. So there’s something.

Other popular days and times for breakups are:

Valentine’s Day – February 14

Breaking up on the “most romantic” day of the year? Well, again, there is the stress of the holiday. Or sometimes, it’s a planned break. A partner decides that they want to get revenge, so they break up on a socially significant day.

Spring Break

So – I’ve been pretty active on twitter recently, and I befriended a few younger Tweeters. Recently, they showed me some posts that exposed exactly what happens in Miami on Spring Break. I must say, I’m pretty glad I had never seen that before now. My eyes are scarred. But it totally makes sense that couples might break up before Spring Break, especially if they’re planning a wild trip.

April Fool’s Day – April 1

My thoughts on this? April Fool’s is a day for pranks. Perhaps there’s a few people out there who decide to “prank” their partner, only it’s not so much a prank. Splitsville just in time for some good weather!

Summer

Finally, there’s a slight peak for breakups spread out throughout the summer months. Ahh summer – happy, free-loving spirits, wearing as minimal clothing as possible to cope with the summer heat. Wandering eyes might wonder what their missing, might be meeting new people at the beach or at a summer party, and might just be ready to cut themselves loose from the relationship ties. It makes sense.

What do you think about these statistics? Have you ever broken up with someone, or been broken up with on one of these days?

Leave me a comment and let me know!